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Four phases, in the order that works.
After 25+ years in recovery I've learned all the things not to do. What's left is a sequence — four phases — that, taken seriously and in order, gets people their lives back.
Sequence
Don't advance until the current phase is complete.
01Higher Power
Invite God to be your Higher Power
The whole program hinges here. Before we touch emotions, relationships, or your future — we settle the question of who is actually in charge. You don't have to have it all figured out. You just have to be willing to invite.
- A simple, daily invitation
- An honest first inventory
- One person you tell — even if it's just Dave
02Emotions
Heal your emotions
Fear, resentment, anger, rage, shame around sexual conduct. We don't ignore them and we don't perform them. We name them on paper, in detail, so they stop running the show. The worksheets are how we do that work.
- Fear / Uncertainty spreadsheet
- Resentments / Anger / Rage spreadsheet
- Sexual conduct spreadsheet
03Relationships
Heal your relationships
With ourselves first, then with the people closest to us, then with the people we hurt. We don't rush amends and we don't avoid them. We do them in order, with guidance, and we let the outcomes be what they are.
- Inventory of harms done
- Amends sequence — easy first, hard later
- Boundary statement for the relationships you keep
04New life
Live your new life
The work doesn't end — it just becomes the way you live. A short daily practice, a weekly check-in, and the willingness to walk somebody else through what you just walked through. That's it. That's the new life.
- Morning + evening practice
- Weekly accounting with a trusted person
- One person you walk through Phases 1–3
How we work together
Step 01
Step 02
Step 03
Step 04
Four ways the program supports you.
Do the worksheets
Fear, resentments, and sexual conduct — the real Phase Two work.
Join a meeting
Zoom meetings to walk through the phases with others — coming soon.
Book time with Dave
30-minute slots for full accountings and one-on-one support.
Ready when you are
Start where you are. Today is fine.
Whatever phase you think you're in — start at Phase One and don't skip the foundation. Download the worksheets when you're ready for Phase Two, and reach out to Dave anytime.